The first kiss my boyfriend and I shared as friends-who-now-know-they-like-each-other was nothing short of terrifying. I pulled him into what I thought would be a sweeping, spark-filled smooch and he just stood there, hardly moving. The rest of the date was even more catastrophic.
Being a young, female adult, I have always had the desire of being able to call my boyfriend my best friend. I think this is a desire many young people face. Our society is so focused on love and the idea of dating, that we all feel so constantly pressured to quickly get ourselves into a relationship.
Jump to navigation. Dating your best friend can turn your most significant friendship into something really special. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich.
Gaby and AJ. We were like the characters in Love, Rosie : There was attraction, but we kept brushing it off. I was in a serious long-distance relationship and my then-boyfriend and I were already talking about settling down. I was surprised when AJ suddenly proposed that I choose him instead of my then-boyfriend.
I always thought that a strong romance is built on, well, romance. With that in mind, my husband and I have worked hard to keep the flame alive over the years—champagne, candlelit dinners, love notes, you name it. About four years ago, my husband and I moved to Chicago from Seattle.
Then my family moved across town and we went to different middle schools. Just in time for my freshman year of high school we moved back. He and I became friends again because we were both in band.
So why is it that the friends-to-lovers paradigm bears such perennial relevance? And does it work IRL? They found that, on average, the couples had known each other four months before dating.
Several years ago, I started dating my best friend. At the time, it made perfect sense. We were inseparable, we had so much in common, we were extremely close, and when we realized we had feelings for each other that surpassed being just friends, it seemed almost silly not to date each other.
In my experience, those things can be really good positives, well worth waiting to date. Sometimes you figure out they are a good fit for you, but you learn to appreciate them a little more, or you learn their communication style. Both things that are crucial for building a lasting relationship.